Unwavering instability


While thinking of relationships the past couple of days, a simile of sorts occurred to me, a mental picture if you will, that depicts various relationships in a mental picture. Perhaps some of my more artistic friends could illustrate my thoughts better than I can word them.

Let’s start with the idea that a house represents a person. Not a family or roommates but a single person is a house. Let us say that when two folks meet and decide that time needs be spent close to the other, these dwellings move closer to one another, neighbors indeed. These new neighbors enjoy the closeness and decide to plant a vine between the buildings and tend too it as a team. This creeping idealization spreads and links the two homes in a physical embrace and is tended to by the homeowners. Gradually the foundations sport the greenery and show of this blooming relationship with the glory of newly blossomed petals, and the tendrils continue crawling up the walls , thusly holding the houses together in a show of the strength this relationship has built. As time passes and the owners grow closer with the maturation of their vine, the thing is allowed to grow unabated, to peek into the windows, to slip under the doors and the siding, perhaps even rise as tall as the roof, as the relationship moves into a certain nonchalance, or maybe a cocoon of comfort , if you will.  As long as both principles involved remain content , this scenario is certainly viable, and mayhap even desirable! But let’s say that one of the partners in this endeavor decides that more freedom of movement is wanted,indeed more autonomy is needed, to retain the individuality originally brought into the neighborhood, and feels the need  so strongly , that the only recourse is to trim back the crawler so to allow the windows to open, to strip some of the glory from the covered walls and allow the oneness of the house to show , to clear the walkway so as not to trip when stepping out for some fresh air; would it be imaginable that the partner , the home next door, might feel threatened ,nay fearful for the existence of the neighborhood and lash out without method and subsequently destroy the vine, the glory of the partnership, leaving naught but the wisping tendrils of a once mighty binding,simply waving to and fro in the breeze of the arguments that ensued over the tending, or lack thereof, of a once strong relationship ?

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18 thoughts on “Unwavering instability

  1. Nice, wonderful post, Williamleeone! I totally agree with Suddie; There should be an agreement by both partners that while striving for harmony, individuality should not-must not, infact-be neglected.

    If only the both of them had joined hands to do the trimming the situation would be different.

    I vividly see the image you tried to paint here. My best friend and I are also a music duo, and we’ve already discussed this very same issue concerning our relationship as band mates.

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  2. This is something that has been on my mind for some time too…I must say.
    There is great irony in life; so much irony. I guess there’s a need for trimming if we must survive. It takes the two to agree to commit though. If they don’t, then everything will go wrong.
    There is never a full answer to relationships though, I guess. Maybe every neighbourhood will have to find an answer to its lawn needs… but this is a great analogy. Apt.

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      1. Hee hee hee! 38 years! Wahoooo! I sure could take a million lessons. Interesting that usually when one is in the zone, one feels like one is alone 🙂
        Compromise helps many times. We only live once. I guess. But easier said than done. Easier said than done.

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  3. It is an interesting scenario. I don’t have enough experience to answer your question as I am only accustomed to admiring the view from the outside. I think that there has to be interdependence as well as independence. However, there would be a lot of risk. The latter can cause the relationship to lose the bonds forged by loyalty and the former makes it difficult to let go when the foundation gets shaky.

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