What if while grasping at straws a solid log you felt? What if the floatation it gave saved you from drowning in self, pity I suppose drives many to swim in waters where they may never have been. If your ship is not steady though I suppose, might encourage even the captain to take a dip into the unknown depths of relationships. But when the boat is sinking is it not wise, some times, to seek another vessel that floats high and dry? When is the time to abandon a leaky ship; after setting sail, or before embarking from the slip? The stories all tell that the captain must leave the ship last, but what if his mate is a fatalist?